I am a father of a two month old baby. I would have posted earlier with unconfined joy, but I couldn't get to it.
After my baby was born, I came to know the hard way that my spouse is being mollycoddled by her mother and to an extent by her father. After child birth a certain degree of responsibility increases for the father and the mother. My wife on her own, is confident of doing a lot, but its extremely disconcerting to see her mother undermine her confidence. It is as though she wants her to be dependent.
A simple case when the baby had to be bathed, my wife was confident but my mother in law didn't allow her to. It is the duty of parents to instil resonsibility in their children, but here I see my spouse being mollycoddled.
My wife is unable to take her own decisions.
My mother brought up two kids ,one year apart without any maid, in addition to the household responsibilities.
I understand that recuperation is required after child birth, 2 - 3 months. But 5 and half months seems rather long.
What gets on my nerve the most when I say something related to my future, they ask me, 'what about my son ? '. How I wish I could tell them, its none of their business.
At times I feel like a sperm donor.
The other day, I wanted to spend the night with my child and wife, and my mother in law has the nerve to ask me , 'if I am really interested ?'.
One of the things that pisses me off the most is when I talk to my kid in English, I am told to speak in my mother tongue and my mother in law tells the kid that ' he will understand only if spoken to in Tamil'. Not that the kid can understand, but I get irritated.
Truth be told, I have taken a few favours from them. When you have to deal with the scum of the earth like RTO and Registrar's office, you'll always need help to get the job done.
This is when I envy my friends who are settled abroad.
If I had just the confidence to pursue an MS, without worrying about the money.
Men with honour and integrity can live happily in western countries.
By now I have realised that all these pieces of paper, so called degrees are bullshit, at least in this country. If you work hard and persevere, you can achieve anything you like. I know it.
I hate it when some one tries to control my life. I mean , you want to do something, but you have to hear people say what about this , what about that? what about the future.
After my baby was born, I came to know the hard way that my spouse is being mollycoddled by her mother and to an extent by her father. After child birth a certain degree of responsibility increases for the father and the mother. My wife on her own, is confident of doing a lot, but its extremely disconcerting to see her mother undermine her confidence. It is as though she wants her to be dependent.
A simple case when the baby had to be bathed, my wife was confident but my mother in law didn't allow her to. It is the duty of parents to instil resonsibility in their children, but here I see my spouse being mollycoddled.
My wife is unable to take her own decisions.
My mother brought up two kids ,one year apart without any maid, in addition to the household responsibilities.
I understand that recuperation is required after child birth, 2 - 3 months. But 5 and half months seems rather long.
What gets on my nerve the most when I say something related to my future, they ask me, 'what about my son ? '. How I wish I could tell them, its none of their business.
At times I feel like a sperm donor.
The other day, I wanted to spend the night with my child and wife, and my mother in law has the nerve to ask me , 'if I am really interested ?'.
One of the things that pisses me off the most is when I talk to my kid in English, I am told to speak in my mother tongue and my mother in law tells the kid that ' he will understand only if spoken to in Tamil'. Not that the kid can understand, but I get irritated.
Truth be told, I have taken a few favours from them. When you have to deal with the scum of the earth like RTO and Registrar's office, you'll always need help to get the job done.
This is when I envy my friends who are settled abroad.
If I had just the confidence to pursue an MS, without worrying about the money.
Men with honour and integrity can live happily in western countries.
By now I have realised that all these pieces of paper, so called degrees are bullshit, at least in this country. If you work hard and persevere, you can achieve anything you like. I know it.
I hate it when some one tries to control my life. I mean , you want to do something, but you have to hear people say what about this , what about that? what about the future.
'I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.' - Ayn Rand.
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